Sunday, July 09, 2006

Mother-daughter separation

My journey: It's happened. My daughter has outgrown me. We are well on the way to mother-separation. My old blog template is back and she has moved on to bigger and better things in the blogosphere and beyond. Our days of playing around with my blog template together were fun while they lasted but all good things come to an end.

What I'm reading: A Woman in Berlin, the anonymous journal of a German woman in the last days of the second world war in Berlin and immediately after. It could have been my mother's diary. Reading this book helped me connect again with my beloved mother, whom I've missed every single day since she left. That's how it goes with mothers and daughters long beyond the grave. We're tied invisibly, painfully. We fight, we separate and then we find new ways of reconnecting long after we think it's no longer possible. We can still find that reconnection in a transcendent place somewhere inside us.
A Woman in Berlin is a must-read for all women. It raises the question in relation to mass wartime rape. Is it better as a woman to suffer indiscriminant gang-raping or to become a whore with a small degree of control over how it happens? Read the book and see how one woman handled it.
A Woman in Berlin book review

My day job: Mark 5 of my Analysis Chapter is well under way. My supervisor read Mark 4 "with pleasure". We've reconnected and it feels good. Only three months to go to the final submission of my dissertation for assessment. I can hardly believe I've come this far.

Motto: Women share more secrets with each other than men will ever know.